LGBT Parents & Allies

New Show Features Gay Child In A Catholic Family

by Robert Shine

The Real O’Neals, ABC’s latest comedy series which premiered last week, features a gay child coming of age in a Catholic family as a prominent storyline.

Entertainment Weekly called the show, which airs Tuesday nights, “a sometimes sentimental, sometimes silly half-hour about a family trying out honesty—and, as a result, acceptance.” 

The show features an Irish Catholic family that is seemingly perfect, but struggles imperfectly with life’s realities like the parents’ impending divorce.

The Real O’Neals is loosely based upon the adolescence of columnist and LGBT advocate Dan Savage, who serves as an executive producer for the show. The foremost plot line is the coming out of youngest son Kenny and his pious mother’s ambivalent reaction, reported the Chicago Sun Times.

Martha Plimpton, who plays mother Eileen, commented on the particular storyline:

One of my favorite things about our writers is how they are exploring this boy’s coming-out and experiences as a young gay man. It is all about how universal they are. The experience of puberty, or falling in love for the first time, or finding a date for the prom, or knowing what you like, or knowing who strikes your fancy….The fact that he’s a young gay kid experiencing all these normal rites of passage really delights me.

Plimpton expressed hope that the show can use humor to address challenging contemporary issues such as LGBT family members, providing a forum for discussion of topics that may be uncomfortable for some.

She highlighted the tragic reality that many LGBT youth are still rejected by their families.

She also pointed out that far too many LGBT youth experience homelessness as a result, concluding:

We have a responsibility—as citizens, but also as people making this show—to respect that reality and offer people a way to talk about this and acknowledge their fears and weaknesses in a way that is loving.

Plimpton’s character, on the other hand, is not necessarily an affirming figure for her gay son.

This parallels Savage’s own mother with whom he was close but who struggled with his coming out “because of her faith and her fear for the fate of his immortal soul.” Plimpton told Bustle that rather than mocking Catholicism, the show laughs at failures and weaknesses as a way to advance love and acceptance.

She said religious parents’ resistance can be “buffered by the love of your child.” It is worth noting that four of the show’s eight writers are Catholic.

Conservative groups failed in an attempt to have the show cancelled when its broadcast was announced last spring.

What may sink the show are critics’ mixed reviews, which have suggested that the show’s treatment of homosexuality is dated. For instance, The New York Times‘ review stated:

[The show] wants desperately to be the brash new sitcom that talks forthrightly about subjects that had been taboo. And a decade or two ago it might have been. Now, though, it’s just the guest who arrives late to the party, blundering in loudly and clumsily….Yes, there are still plenty of closeted teenagers and plenty of parents as clueless as the two O’Neals, but in 2016 that no longer seems like an occasion for lowbrow laughs.

More positively, Slate’s review lauded The Real O’Neals for advancing representations of gay people on television and explained:

If you want to measure how far TV representations of queer people have come since Will & Grace’s attractive gay leads spent entire seasons without any romantic action, please note that on ABC’s new sitcom The Real O’Neals, only six episodes elapse between 16-year-old Kenny O’Neal’s coming out and his first gay date….And before the season is over, Kenny will have his first gay kiss and go to prom with a boy.

The Atlantic’s review was hopeful, too, that this comedy, which deals with darker issues in a sitcom’s typical “bouncy, upbeat style,” would fulfill its potential. The Washington Post said Catholicism is not the “butt of the joke,” but a device to reveal “an endearing story about a family that loves and supports one another.”

I watched the first two episodes, and from those shows, I think that charges that The Real O’Neals is anti-Catholic are unsubstantiated. There were jokes about bingo nights and contraception, but these came across less as offensive and more as just tired.

There is potential for the show to engage Kenny’s sexual identity in meaningful ways.

It has not happened yet as the show’s treatment of this issue is too exaggerated and not clever.

The realities of Catholic families with LGBT members are sacred and complex, and there is certainly humor to be found in the struggles and in the celebrations such families experience. Whether The Real O’Neals can capture these realities or will stick to tired stereotypes remains to be seen.

Originally published by New Ways Ministry; Photo via New Ways Ministry