I Have Not Always Stood On The Right Side Of History

by Angela Rines

I was looking at shirts today to wear to NYC’s Pride Parade, and I ran across this one, that says “I stand on the right side of history.” But I have a confession to make. I’m not sure I am allowed to wear this shirt.

I have not always stood on the right side of history on the issues of marriage equality and equal rights, and it embarrasses me to admit my past.

I remember being in college and in a small group at my church. In this small group some girls were talking about seeing people at their college rallying for gay rights and waving rainbow flags. In my naiveté, I made that suggestion that we as Christians needed to take back the rainbows from gays. That they didn’t deserve to use this symbol. That they were ruining this symbol. Writing and reading those words now, it embarrasses me. And that is just one story and instance.

Fast forwarding a few years, when I first started at my current church, I was approached by a church member and a committee was formed to look at becoming an inclusive church and an inclusive youth group. I admit that even at that point, just a few years ago, I wasn’t open to this. My thoughts then were LGBTQ people were free to do what they want, but I wasn’t going to get involved.

Even just a year ago I was in NYC the same day as the Pride Parade, and I remember this sense of unease.

Perhaps then God was convicting me for my unloving beliefs.

And I apologize. I apologize for being just one of many voices against equal rights. I apologize for beliefs I held and the lack of love I showed. I apologize for not listening more closely to the voice of God and the voice of my brothers and sisters.

God did not just leave me at that point though. Recently I have been attending a community that welcomes LQBTQ people. For the past several months, on the third Monday of the month I have been making the pilgrimage from NJ to Brooklyn to attend Not So Churchy. There I have not only had to opportunity to hear the stories and faith of my gay and lesbian brothers and sisters, but their faith journeys have grown and enriched my own.

I have begun to think that statistically, in a youth group my size, I will have several youth questioning and struggling with their sexual identities.

I have begun to think about how we can be a welcoming youth group and how I can be a welcoming and accepting presence in the lives of my youth and their friends.

My conversion story has been a long process. From that moment in college. To being ambivalent. To arriving where I am today. There have been lots of little things and big things that have along the way changed my heart.

God continues to reshape my heart in this area. But what I want to say is be patient with us who are slow to love and slow to show understanding. God is never done shaping and changing us.

And this is why I have pride in a God who never stops loving us.

This God is gracious with us when we don’t show love. I have pride in a God who keeps working on us and changing us, if we just open ourselves.

This year I will be attending my first Pride Parade, and I am bringing 6 other people from my church with me. And God is not done with me yet!

I may not have always stood on the right side of history. But I am there now.

And maybe, just maybe I have earned the right to wear this shirt?

Post via Presbyterian Welcome; Photo via flickr Antoine Walter

Comments (9)


I left the Presbyterian
I left the Presbyterian church in college because of this issue. Thank you for this post. Getting this message to other church leaders and youth directors brings me hope for the church.


This post definitely
This post definitely describes me, I was never exactly totally anti-gay but only very recently have I started being pro-gay. I am ashamed that it has taken me this long.


Same here Simon, and it’s
Same here Simon, and it’s only taken me the last several years to finally come to terms with supporting such a controversial issue as gay rights, and coincidentally, it wasn’t until I finally shook hands with a 27-year-old Vietnamese American gay man last September that I’ve flipped my old “fear the homosexual” self over on my own head, and am now a strong supporting ally.

I am certain there are many others who perhaps have similar feelings as we now both do apparently. Cheers, and God bless! 😀

Michael Holtz

Thank you, Ms. Rines, for
Thank you, Ms. Rines, for this article. There are a great number of national figures that could learn from you. Your apology is obviously sincere, not only in your choice of words, but in how your incorporated your realization and apology into positive action.


Thank you for your honesty
Thank you for your honesty and your courage in writing this. I always appreciate people who are honest about their struggles in accepting lgbtq people instead of people who pretend to be accepting when they really are not living out their acceptance.
We all have moments, perhaps, when we have judged and wished we had not. I admit that if we had met when you were in college, I may have judged you for judging me (illogical, but true). I am always so heartened by the open dialogue in faith based communities that I am finding more and more frequently, and I think that dialogue is more productive than anything else in moving towards a more loving and accepting world.
I’m glad you shared the rainbow, instead.
– Stephanie

Karl Rines

Be sure to say hi to Angie
Be sure to say hi to Angie and my other daughter Marissa. They will both be out and about in NYC on Sunday. Proud of both my girls!

Diane Van Alstyne

God has worked in my life as
God has worked in my life as in yours, I am so grateful of his opening my eyes. Your messages encourages me, and reminds me to be patient with others.


I went from being anti-gay to
I went from being anti-gay to pro-gay in a similar fashion. One day I saw a petition for equal marriage, and thought “no way”, then stopped and thought “but why?” I researched, I asked questions of straight and gay friends, I examined what I thought to be my beliefs. I changed. I have a heart for youth, particularly those struggling with abuse, bullying and depression. I’m seeking opportunities to volunteer with kids displaced from their homes because of parents who reject them. I seek to live out the love that Jesus Christ showed me.

RJ Abada OFM


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