International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia

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Today is International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia! It was on this day in 1990 that the World Health Organization made the decision to declassify homosexuality as a mental disorder. The day was highlighted to draw attention to the discrimination and violence experienced by people with diverse sexual and gender orientations. Though the world…

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My Coming Out Helped Me Realize My White Privilege

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Five years ago, at Christmas, I went home for the holidays and announced to my family that I was planning on going to seminary. For the most part, my family was excited and supportive of my decision to pursue ordained ministry, but a few were resistant. As it turned out, they felt that my being…

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Out Under The Rainbow

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Have you ever looked into a person’s face and felt truly needed? Sometimes, I look into the face of another person who definitely needs me in some way, but the need itself is unspoken, unfamiliar, uncomfortable—or out of tune with the time and place—and instead of addressing it, I move on to what’s next, feeling…

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For All the (Gay) Saints Men’s Retreat

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I am excited to be joining with Roman Catholic filmmaker and activist Brendan Fay to lead a new version of a 30 year “institution” founded by author and priest John McNeill. “For All The Saints” is an ecumenical opportunity for gay and bisexual men to reflect on their faith and build community “on the mountain”…

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Always The Stranger: Being Out And Bi

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I’ve been out as bisexual to myself and my world for about fifteen years, acknowledging that I am able to love both men and women. One of the things I have learned through these years is that being out as bi tends to make me a stranger across the spectrum of sexual orientation. I become…

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My Queer Catholic Journey

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The three hardest words for me to tell myself were: “I’m a lesbian.” I (along with the millions of other children around my age) was bombarded with the notion of a man and a woman, the prince and the princess. I didn’t even know what it meant to be gay until I was ten years…

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